Hey there beautiful!
Last November, we honored my mom with a HUGE 85th birthday party; Almond Sparkling Wine, over 60 family and friends in attendance and a great roasting session. It was absolutely amazing!!! We (and everyone in attendance) talked about her party for months and I’m so glad to still have her with me. She’s dancing in the first photo, I had to keep saying “Mom, stop moving. It’s a photo, not a video.” I couldn’t get mad at her though, look at that smile!!!
Being middle-aged (54 in October) I often feel like I’m in the middle. I am the support system for my mom, my children, my coworkers, my extended family members, AND my grandkids. It often feels like I’m being pulled in so many different directions, just thinking about it makes me exhausted! If you or someone you know is in my position, I want you to know that while it’s rewarding, I understand that it’s not easy. And if you don’t have a loving, committed and participatory partner on your side, that makes things even harder on you.
So many of my clients (and their moms) are holding things down alone, afraid to open their heart to love again, to trust, to be vulnerable due to past heartache. Whether it is by choice, due to being abandoned or widowed, maneuvering your way through being the support system for others while not having one for yourself is tough. I know because I did it for years!
Here are a few things I want you to remember…
- MAKE time for YOU – you can’t continue to give to others if you are not taking care of yourself. It’s NOT selfish, it’s self-preserving!
- ASK for help – stop trying to be superwoman; ask for help when you need it and have a little grace if they don’t do things exactly as you would. They have no problem asking you so darling, open your mouth.
- FIND the time to allow someone to LOVE on YOU – even if you don’t have any help in your caregiving efforts, just knowing that you have a someone that is waiting for you when you are done makes all the difference.
Mother’s Day is in 2-days and I’m looking forward to honoring my mother for the beautiful, fun and sometimes exhausting woman that she is. She’s my girl and I so love her.
To all of the Moms that are reading this article, I want you to know that I have plenty of love to shower on you, I see you, I support you because I truly know what it’s like to BE you. Give yourself permission to do something for you, to say yes to the idea of love again and to learn how to heal your heart, build healthy relationships and mend your marriages…the Grown-Ass Woman’s way. Happy Mother’s Day!!!
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With all my love, Coach Anita Charlot
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