”Written by Exposure Magazine contributing writer – Maria Howell (Choir Soloist in the movie version of “The Color Purple)
There’s something to be said about feeling appreciated in a relationship, to hear that you’re beautiful, pretty…we’ll even take cute.
“You’re an unconventional beauty”…this is what I was told by an ex-boyfriend. What does that mean exactly? Since I had never heard that before, it stumped me. When I asked him to explain, I didn’t get a clear enough answer…at least not one I understood. Later, I came to my own conclusion…that maybe I just wasn’t pretty enough to him. Something I wish had been the case. There’s something to be said about feeling appreciated in a relationship, to hear that you’re beautiful, pretty…we’ll even take cute.
We all should feel a sense of “self appreciation”, when it comes to how we look. Not from a place of superficial vanity, but from a place that some people call, “self love”. We all have insecurities about one thing or another, be it big or small, it’s just human of us. But, it is so important to not let anyone define us. Where we put so much weight on their opinion about things. I personally felt great about myself, “pre” ex-boyfriend, but somewhere in the relationship, I allowed my self-esteem to be compromised. Mistake! After which, I found myself in a rebuilding phase. Now, please be clear…”looks” aren’t the main focus here, it’s more about not giving up your ‘personal power’. It’s about having confidence and faith in God’s opinion about you, not another person’s. This goes for men and women. If we choose to stay with someone who leaves us to feel anything other than our true selves, we are doing ourselves a disservice in a number of ways, in the long run. The effects can be challenging, and well…simply sad.
You must be true to yourself, at ALL times. If we don’t value ourselves, the rest of the world won’t raise the price.
One of the mistakes “I” made, was working too hard to be his cheerleader, his biggest supporter, because…it made him happy and I wanted to help him accomplish his career goals and aspirations. I know what it feels like, not have the kind of support, required in this industry. Isn’t that what’s it’s all about? When you love someone, that’s what you do…right? Not entirely. You must put yourself in the equation, or you’ll be left to feel disappointed, because of a lack of balance. You must be true to yourself, at ALL times. If we don’t value ourselves, the rest of the world won’t raise the price. You are priceless! Just tryin’ to tell you something…
Written by contributing writer – Maria Howell (Choir Soloist in the movie version of “The Color Purple) www.mariahowell.com
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