Cedric Nettles Senior Editor
I was bullied growing up, I was also bullied in my military career. If you are a young man or young lady I know exactly how you feel…You walk to your desk, you just want to get the class done.That one person or one clique is waiting on you to sit down. Suddenly you are the source for a lot of jokes, unflattering things said about your family, and no one has your back. I don’t even want to go into being the only child.
1 out of 4 kids are Bullied. 77% of students are bullied mentally, verbally, & physically. Cyberbullying statistics are rapidly approaching similar numbers, with 43% experiencing cyberbullying. … Each day 160,000 students miss school for fear of being bullied.
As an adult you think it would stop… Not necessarily …You see these same bullies as kids grow up to be corporate leaders, and not to mention leaders of the free world. They attack your livelihood, reputation, and sanity and will do so with no chill. You switched from a classroom desk to a cubical with the same toxic environment.
Stop letting people give you their backsides to kiss.. They can tell you to lay down and you won’t even do that right,fast enough or good enough. HOLD YOUR HEAD UP…If you got favor on your life, use it to help others.
Getting bullied is like having an open cage door you know that is open, but choose not to fly through it. It causes stress like you would not believe, and affects your confidence levels. As I overcame my own insecurities through my own journey I had to learn to truly be who I was. Not to mention speak those things of who I am and what I am as if i had them already. I have been hearing that “you are not this, or not that all my life” and was hell bent on proving people wrong. Once I start speaking (then achieving) I realized something…You cannot say the right things to the wrong people anymore than you can say the wrong things to the right people who are assigned to you…Who get you…That see why you do the things you do. In most cases you care so much for people you won’t do impulsive things that narrow minded people deem as fear, or being something you are not.
I don’t blame myself for being bullied, I blamed myself for wallowing in self pity. People will accept you at your own appraisal. If you don’t have the intestinal fortitude to tell them who you are and where you are going, the abuser will gladly fill in the blank to ensure you feel as miserable as them.
You say “this”…”No you are not you are “that.” Stop letting people give you their backsides to kiss.. They can tell you to lay down and you won’t even do that right,fast enough or good enough. HOLD YOUR HEAD UP…If you got favor on your life! Bullies love to control you when they are not in control of their own lives.
I don’t blame myself for being bullied, I blamed myself for wallowing in self pity. People will accept you at your own appraisal. If you don’t have the intestinal fortitude to tell them who you are and where you are going, the abuser will gladly fill in the blanks to ensure you feel as miserable as them. I will tell you this one thing to do that will liberate you…Forgive. I am a Christian, and being one is not a euphemism for being a doormat. You can’t keep drinking poison and hope it hurts them. Ask for the capacity to be sympathetic and be an ambassador of what you profess. If you are the bullied, use that pain to push you to higher levels and not internalize it… If you are the bullier, sit down and talk to someone you trust to get your pain out.
Keep pressing through and the right people will gravitate to you. Actress Maria Howell (The Color Purple, The Hunger Games, Hidden Figures, Saints & Sinners) wrote the forward for Torrential Waters. Having mentors like my publicist Tam Lawrence and Maria helped get through to my next level. So to the abused and abuser alike, find a mentor! We have to submit our egos to someone.
I wrote Torrential Waters that talks about bullying and peer pressure and to show the darker side of the abuser and the abused. My work illustrates real life situations our youth face. Let’s love on one another in peace.
Getting Outside from Your Comfort Zone
The journey to and through Entrepreneurship can feel like a Roller-coaster Ride. One day you are riding high and the next day it can feel like things are barreling downward! Fear and Doubt are usually the causes for this Roller-coaster ride.
Beverly is an Award-Winning Educator who changed her Life when she decided to push past fear and doubt to start a new career after 14 years! During those 14 years, she also started 3 businesses (which had a bigger impact on her than she realized at the time).
She has been able to conquer Fear and Self-doubt by stepping out on faith and deciding that she wanted more control over her time and financial freedom. That is why Beverly Walthour from Atlanta, Published Co-Author of the Book, Tying the Knot between Ministry and Marketplace, Vol.1, addresses them in her Chapter: “Fear doesn’t Live Here Anymore: Kick Fear to the Curb and Finally Start Your Business.
This leap of faith started because she knew deep down that GOD has something greater for her than what she was doing as an Educator. Although she was not 100% sure what was going to happen when she walked away from that career after 14 years, she knew that whatever it was, it was going to push her outside her comfort zone.
However, that leap of faith actually started 7 years into her career as an educator. Acting on the advice of a trusted friend and fellow educator, she took her 1st leap of faith by resigning from her Job and open a Tutoring Business.
Unfortunately, she was not prepared for the demands of being a full-time entrepreneur. Although she was an award-winning educator and knew how to teach, she did not prepare herself mentally for the role of entrepreneur. About 6 months into her new role, fear and doubt start creeping in. Although she was able to get clients, it was not consistent.
So, she went back to the Safety and Security of her career as an Educator. At least there, she knew how much she would make every month. However, at that point she had been bitten by the entrepreneurial bug.
Although she was back in the classroom, she was never 100% happy there. So, after another 7 years, she stepped out on faith and resigned AGAIN.
She went into the field of training (after telling herself for YEARS that teaching was all she could do). However, during that transition, she started 2 more Businesses. People were always asking her how she was able to do it.
After doing some research, she realized that she could use her business experience plus her experience as an educator and trainer to teach women who to start their own businesses.
From that realization, she became a certified Business Strategist for Christian Female Coaches and Consultants.
When she reflects on everything it felt like a rollercoaster ride. However, she would NOT change the route she had to take to get there for anything in the world. Having this experience and getting outside her comfort zone enables her to connect with her clients. She’s been through what they are experiencing!
You can read and be encouraged by her Chapter in “Tying the Knot between Ministry and Marketplace” and be encouraged by Beverly and Educator who decided to quit a Job she loved to go for “Something More” in Life and empower her Clients.
The 2nd book: “Tying the Knot between Ministry and Marketplace, Vol. 2” is being Launched in April during the Faith and Business Gathering event that takes place in Memphis.
“Tying the Knot between Ministry and Marketplace” Available at this Link https://bit.ly/beverlyevents
‘Overcoming’ Torrential Waters by Cedric Nettles
Torrential Waters was my hard hitting, emotional journey of a ‘gifted’ young man coping with new found fame and a very low opinion of himself. I shared my childhood of having a poor self image and being bullied. I also shared the power of God’s hands on you, and His ability to show favor on your life, even when you don’t think you are ready. I laugh , because
at times I feel I am living Torrential Waters in some respects now. You will relate as well after you finish reading.
I don’t pull punches in Torrential Waters, because life does not. This piece is by Chrystan Johnson and expresses what she felt after reading Torrential Waters. We all have to know we have a purpose to our pain. We have an assignment, something we have to do before we take that last breath. That one thing you think that does not matter serves a higher purpose. I want to encourage everyone to go as hard as you can in this life, to grow, to serve, to be all you are called to be.
I was honored to read this review, this sums it up
Excellent read! Bought the book, but due to some medical/eye problems, could not read it for a few months. Finally got that fixed (!) and finished Nettles’ “Torrential Waters” within a day and a half! One of those books you just don’t want to end! Wonderful insight into faith, family, relationships, forgiveness of others as well as one’s self, hope for the future and the ever-enduring spirit of the human soul. I highly recommend for readers of any age. I hope Mr. Nettles has more (perhaps a series?!), but if not a series about this character, than at least more books planned for the future. The author’s own story itself is book-worthy; I personally would love to see him write an autobiography on how much he’s overcome in his own life. Meanwhile – buy the book! You won’t be disappointed.-Jan Harvin
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